If $Y \sim \mathcal N(X\beta, \sigma^2 I)$ then the log likelihood is $$ l(\beta, \sigma^2|y) = -\frac n2 \log (2\pi) - \frac n2 \log(\sigma^2) - \frac 1{2\sigma^2}||y-X\beta||^2 $$ and assuming non-stochastic and full rank predictors. From this we find that $$ \frac{\partial l}{\partial \sigma^2} = 0 \implies \hat \sigma^2 = \frac 1n ||Y-X\hat \beta||^2. $$
We want to know when the MLE $\hat \sigma^2$ is equal to the sample variance of the residuals $$ \tilde \sigma^2 = \frac{1}{n}\sum_{i=1}^n (e_i - \bar e)^2 $$
where $e = Y - \hat Y$ are the residuals. We know $$ n\tilde \sigma^2 = e^Te - n\bar e^2 $$ while $$ n\hat \sigma^2 = e^Te $$ so this tells us the two are equal when the constant vector $\mathbf 1$ is in the column space of $X$, which means $\bar e = 0$. If that is not the case then the two won't be exactly equal.
I'm leaving the rest of my answer here but as I understand OP's question better I don't think it applies.
Note $$ ||Y - X\hat \beta||^2 = (Y - HY)^T(Y - HY) = Y^T(I-H)Y $$ where $H = X(X^TX)^{-1}X^T$. This means that we have a Gaussian quadratic form, so $$ Var\left(Y^T (I-H)Y\right) = 2\sigma^4 \text{tr}(I-H) + 4\sigma^2 \beta^T X^T(I-H)X\beta. $$ $X^T(I-H)X = X^TX - X^TX(X^TX)^{-1}X^TX = 0$ and $\text{tr}(I-H) = n-p$ so we have $$ Var(\hat \sigma^2) = \frac{2\sigma^4(n-p)}{n^2}. $$
The standard estimate of $\sigma^2$ is probably $\tilde \sigma^2 := \frac{1}{n-p}||Y - X\hat \beta||^2$ (which is unbiased, as we can see by computing $E\left(Y^T(I-H)Y\right)$) so $$ Var(\tilde \sigma^2) = \frac{2\sigma^4}{n-p}. $$
I'm not entirely sure what more than this you're looking for, as technically what you asked for was the variance of the residuals which is $$ Var(e) = Var\left((I-H)Y\right) =\sigma^2 (I-H) $$ but I don't think that's what you mean. Or if that is what you mean, then we can directly compare this to $Var(\varepsilon) = \sigma^2 I$ and the difference comes down to $\sigma^2 H$.