Suppose $\hat{m} = \frac{1}{N}\sum_{i=1}^{N}(X_i)$ where $X_i \sim N(m,\sigma)$.
Are the following steps correct?
$Var\left\{(\hat{m}-m)^2\right\} = E\left\{(\hat{m}-m)^4\right\} - E^2\left\{(\hat{m}-m)^2\right\}$
$= 3E^2\left\{(\hat{m}-m)^2\right\} - E^2\left\{(\hat{m}-m)^2\right\}$
$= 2E^2\left\{(\hat{m}-m)^2\right\}$\begin{align}\operatorname{Var}\left\{(\hat{m}-m)^2\right\} &= \mathrm E\left\{(\hat{m}-m)^4\right\} - \mathrm E^2\left\{(\hat{m}-m)^2\right\}\\&= 3\mathrm E^2\left\{(\hat{m}-m)^2\right\} - \mathrm E^2\left\{(\hat{m}-m)^2\right\}\\&= 2\mathrm E^2\left\{(\hat{m}-m)^2\right\}\end{align}
Then, $Var\left\{(\hat{m}-m)^2\right\} = 2\frac{1}{N^4}\sigma^2$$\operatorname{Var}\left\{(\hat{m}-m)^2\right\} = 2\frac{1}{N^4}\sigma^2$
However the textbook says (without any proving) that
$Var\left\{(\hat{m}-m)^2\right\} \tilde{} \frac{1}{N^2} $$$\operatorname{Var}\left\{(\hat{m}-m)^2\right\} \tilde{} \frac{1}{N^2} $$
Where am I going wrong?
Update: as whuber told in the comments, i was wrong about $ E\left\{(\hat{m}-m)^2\right\} $$ \mathrm E\left\{(\hat{m}-m)^2\right\} $. This expectation equlaequals to $\frac{1}{N}\sigma$ and not $\frac{1}{N^2}\sigma$.
Therefore, the variance is
$Var\left\{(\hat{m}-m)^2\right\} = 2E^2\left\{(\hat{m}-m)^2\right\} = 2\frac{1}{N^2}\sigma^2 \tilde{} \frac{1}{N^2}$$$\operatorname{Var}\left\{(\hat{m}-m)^2\right\} = 2\mathrm E^2\left\{(\hat{m}-m)^2\right\} = 2\frac{1}{N^2}\sigma^2 \tilde{} \frac{1}{N^2}$$
Anyway, the answer provided by mpiktas is also correct and i prefer to chose it as the best answer.