Here simple examples, in which I focus on the
terminology that seems to be confusing you.
Suppose you have a sample of size 100 from the
distribution $\mathsf{Norm}(\mu=200, \sigma=25).$
Then the standard deviation of a single observation
is $SD(X_i) = \sigma = 25.$ The standard deviation of $\bar X,$
also called the 'standard error of the (sample) mean', is $SD(\bar X) = \sigma/\sqrt{n} = 25/10 = 2.5.$
The usual estimated standard deviation of single observation $X_i$ from the population is
$S = \sqrt{\frac{\sum_{i=1}^n (X_i - \bar X)^2}{n-1}}.$
[Notice that $E(S^2) = \sigma^2,$ but $E(S)$ is not exactly equal to $\sigma.$ It's very close for large $n$ and in practice the small discrepancy is usually ignored. If $n = 5,$ for example, then $E(S) \approx 0.940\sigma.$ But if $n = 50,$ we have $E(S) \approx 0.995\sigma.)$
Accordingly, the usual '(estimated) standard error' of the sample mean is $S/\sqrt{n},$ where the word estimated is often omitted for brevity (because as soon as you realize you're using the estimated SD $S$ you have to know the standard error is also an estimate).
If $\mu$ is unknown and $\sigma$ is known, then a 95% confidence interval for $\mu$ is of the form
$$\bar X \pm 1.96\frac{\sigma}{\sqrt{n}},$$
where the last factor $\frac{\sigma}{\sqrt{n}}$ in the margin of error is the (exact) standard error of the sample mean $\bar X.$
[The amount $1.96\frac{\sigma}{\sqrt{n}}$ added to and subtracted from $\bar X$ is the 'margin of error' of the confidence interval. Notice that it becomes smaller as $n$ increases. A CI based on $n = 400$ observations is half as long and a
CI based on $n = 100$ observations from the same distribution.]
By contrast, if both $\mu$ and $\sigma$ are unknown, then a 95% CI for $\mu$ is of the form
$$\bar X \pm t^*\frac{S}{\sqrt{n}},$$
where $t^*$ cuts probability 0.025 from the upper tail of Student's t distribution with $n-1$ degrees of freedom and the (estimated) standard error of $\bar X$ is $\frac{S}{\sqrt{n}}.$
[In this case, it is also possible to get a confidence interval for $\sigma$ by using a chi-squared distribution, but this confidence interval is of an entirely different form: It is not symmetrical about $S$ and it does not use a 'standard error' of $S.]$