There are many methods for selecting the regularization parameter ridge regression (also known as Tikhonov regularization) including the L-curve method, the discrepancy principle, and generalized cross validation. Assuming that the least squares problem is ill-conditioned so as to require regularization, all of the commonly used methods that I've just mentioned produce a value of $\lambda$ that depends not just on the number of data points, but also on the particular values of $y$. Using any of these methods, the value of $\lambda$ that is selected will typically increase with the number of data points.
In machine learning applications, it's typical to adjust $\lambda$ so that that the prediction error over the validation set is minimized. Here, the choice of $\lambda$ depends on both the training data and the validation data. As the size of the training set grows, it's typical for the optimal $\lambda$ to grow.
If you think of ridge regression as finding the Bayesian maximum a posteriori probability (MAP) solution beginning with a multivariate normal prior for the parameters $\beta$ and assuming a multivariate normal likelihood, then you get the ridge regression least squares problem to estimate the MAP solution. In this framework, since $\lambda$ is associated with the prior covariance it should not change as you add more data points.