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E\left[ {\left( {{a_{ij}} - n{\sigma _{ij}}} \right)\left( {{a_{kl}} - n{\sigma _{kl}}} \right)} \right] = E\left[ {{a_{ij}}{a_{kl}} - {a_{ij}}n{\sigma _{kl}} - n{\sigma _{ij}}{a_{kl}} + n{\sigma _{ij}}n{\sigma _{kl}}} \right] = \\
E\left[ {\sum\limits_{\alpha = 1}^n {{x_{\alpha i}}x_{\alpha j}^{}} \sum\limits_{\alpha = 1}^n {{x_{\alpha k}}x_{\alpha l}^{}} } \right] - {n^2}{\sigma _{ij}}{\sigma _{kl}} = \\
E\left[ {\sum\limits_{\alpha = 1}^n {{x_{\alpha i}}x_{\alpha j}^{}{x_{\alpha k}}x_{\alpha l}^{}} + \sum\limits_{\alpha \ne \omega }^n {{x_{\alpha i}}x_{\alpha j}^{}{x_{\omega k}}x_{\omega l}^{}} } \right] - {n^2}{\sigma _{ij}}{\sigma _{kl}} = \\
E\left[ {\sum\limits_{\alpha = 1}^n {{x_{\alpha i}}x_{\alpha j}^{}{x_{\alpha k}}x_{\alpha l}^{}} } \right] + \sum\limits_{\alpha \ne \omega }^n {E\left[ {{x_{\alpha i}}x_{\alpha j}^{}} \right]E\left[ {{x_{\omega k}}x_{\omega l}^{}} \right]} - {n^2}{\sigma _{ij}}{\sigma _{kl}} = \\
\sum\limits_{\alpha = 1}^n {E\left[ {{x_{\alpha i}}x_{\alpha j}^{}{x_{\alpha k}}x_{\alpha l}^{}} \right]} + n\left( {n - 1} \right){\sigma _{ij}}{\sigma _{kl}} - {n^2}{\sigma _{ij}}{\sigma _{kl}} = \\
n\left( {{\sigma _{ij}}{\sigma _{kl}} + {\sigma _{il}}{\sigma _{jk}} + {\sigma _{ik}}{\sigma _{jl}}} \right) + n\left( {n - 1} \right){\sigma _{ij}}{\sigma _{kl}} - {n^2}{\sigma _{ij}}{\sigma _{kl}} = n\left( {{\sigma _{il}}{\sigma _{jk}} + {\sigma _{ik}}{\sigma _{jl}}} \right)
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The moments of $x_1,...,x_p$ with a joint normal distribution can be obtained from the characteristics function. (The first four moments of $x$ are available in Anderson (2003) An Introduction to Multivariate Statistical Analysis. 3ed.)