I've run up against a wall in reconciling two different definitions of the Ornstein-Uhlenbeck process, and would appreciate some help.
On the one hand, as discussed here, we can define an Ornstein-Uhlenbeck process as a Gaussian process with a kernel function of the form $k(x, y) \propto \exp(-\left\lVert x - y\right\rVert / \theta)$, which is clearly stationary.
On the other hand, we have the definition of the Ornstein-Uhlenbeck process as the solution to the stochastic differential equation $du(t) = \theta(\mu - u(t))+\sigma dW(t)$, which is given by $u(t)= u(0) \exp(-\theta t)+\mu(1-\exp(-\theta t) )+\sigma \exp(-\theta t) \int_0^t \exp(\theta\tau)dW(\tau)$. Using the Itô isometry, as shown here and here on SE, this process can be shown to have the covariance $k(x, y) = \frac{\sigma^2}{2\theta} \exp(-\theta (x+y)) (1 - \exp(2 \theta (x - y)))$.
Not only is this not equal to the previous definition, this is not even stationary. What gives? Are these two distinct definitions of what "Ornstein-Uhlenbeck process" means, or can these two processes be shown to be equal, possibly modulo certain assumptions?
As a bonus question, just because I've never seen anyone prove it - how do you prove that the solution to the above SDE is a Gaussian process (assuming it is)?