I have data that is reasonably assumed to be iid samples from some distribution. Our goal is to put a confidence interval on the population mean and have something similar for the population variance. Notationally, we have IID $X_i, i = 1, ..., n$ with mean $\mu$, variance $\sigma^2$ unknown. Sample size $n$ varies from 200 to 20,000.
Plotting my data, it is trimodal, so definitely does not seem to be coming from a normal distribution.
Computing confidence intervals on the sample mean $\bar{X_n}$ is no problem. I'm just not sure how much to trust them.
Below is my planned diagnostics. Can you tell me if it make sense?
Here my reasoning is to see if many samples of $\bar{X_{n-1}}$ does indeed follow a normal to gain confidence that our $n$ is large enough that the central limit theorem approximation is valid. I can compute the sample mean $\bar{X_{n-1}}$ when I hold out one data point. That gives $n$ different samples of sample means $\bar{X_{n-1}}$. I can plot those and see if they follow a normal, or perform a Q-Q plot against a normal with standard deviation the computes standard error ($S_n/\sqrt{n}$) to see if they are close to normal. If so, then it is evidence that $\bar{X_n}$ will be normal and the confidence interval computed with variance $S_n^2/n$ is valid. Does this sound like a sound method?
Are there other diagnostics to gain confidence in the confidence intervals that are perhaps better?
related question: Can I use sub-sample means to verify that the sample mean is approximately normal?