I first argue for general identically distributed $X_1,X_2$ that the conditional mean of $Y_1$ conditional on $Y_2$ is constant $0$. Based on this, I argue that the covariance of $Y_1,Y_2$ is 0. Then, under normality, zero covariance implies independence.
The conditional mean
Intuition: $X_1+X_2=y$ does not imply anything about which component contributed more to the sum (e.g., $X_1=x, X_2 = y-x$ is as likely as $X_1 = y-x, X_2=x$). Thus, the expected difference must be 0.
Proof: $X_1$ and $X_2$ have identical distribution and $X_1+X_2$ is symmetric with respect to the indexing. Thus, for symmetry reasons, the conditional distribution $X_1 \mid Y_2 = y$ must be equal to the conditional distribution $X_2 \mid Y_2 = y$. Hence, the conditional distributions also have the same mean, and
\begin{equation}
\mathbb{E}(Y_1 \mid Y_2 = y) = \mathbb{E}(X_1 - X_2 \mid X_1+X_2 = y) \\ = \mathbb{E}(X_1 \mid X_1+X_2 = y) - \mathbb{E}(X_2 \mid X_1+X_2 = y)= 0.
\end{equation}
(Caveat: I did not consider the possibility that the conditional mean might not exist.)
Constant conditional mean implies zero correlation/covariance
Intuition: correlation measures how much $Y_1$ tends to increase when $Y_2$ increases. If observing $Y_2$ never changes our mean of $Y_1$, $Y_1$ and $Y_2$ are uncorrelated.
Proof: By definition, covariance is
\begin{equation}
Cov(Y_1,Y_2) = \mathbb{E}\left[\left(Y_1 - \mathbb{E}(Y_1)\right)\left(Y_2 -\mathbb{E}(Y_2) \right)\right]
\end{equation}
to this expectation, we apply the law of iterated expectations: take the expectation of the conditional expectation conditional on $Y_2$:
\begin{equation}
= \mathbb{E}\left[\mathbb{E}\left[\left(Y_1 - \mathbb{E}(Y_1)\right)\left(Y_2 -\mathbb{E}(Y_2) \right) \mid Y_2\right]\right] = \mathbb{E}\left[(Y_2 - \mathbb{E}(Y_2))\mathbb{E}\left[Y_1 - \mathbb{E}(Y_1) \mid Y_2\right] \right].
\end{equation}
Recall that the conditional mean was shown to be independent of $Y_2$ and thus the expression simplifies as
\begin{equation}
= \mathbb{E}\left[(Y_2 - \mathbb{E}(Y_2))\mathbb{E}\left[Y_1-\mathbb{E}(Y_1)\right]\right]
\end{equation}
but the inner expectation is $0$ and we get
\begin{equation}
= \mathbb{E}\left[(Y_2 - \mathbb{E}(Y_2))\times0\right] = 0.
\end{equation}
Independence
Just by assuming identical distributions for $X_1,X_2$, it was shown that $Y_1$ and $Y_2$ are uncorrelated. When $X_1,X_2$ are jointly normal (for example, iid. normal as in the question), their linear combinations $Y_1,Y_2$ are also jointly normal and thus uncorrelatedness implies independence.