I don't think you need to create the term "cross-sectional dispersion". From your code, it seems that you are seeking the first two moments of the sample variance when the sample values are not iid draws from a normal distribution but rather are correlated draws (a vector drawn from a multivariate normal).
You have $(X_1, ..., X_N) \sim MVN$ with known mean vector and covariance matrix. You calculate the sample variance, $S^2 = \sum (X_i-\bar{X})^2/(N-1)$ and want to know the expected value and variance of $S^2$.
You can write $S^2$ as a function of $\sum X_i^2$ and $(\sum X_i)^2$; the latter can be written as $\sum_{i,j} X_i X_j$.
The expected value will be relatively simple to obtain using the means, variances, and covariances.
The variance will be a bit tedious and will require you to look at the 3rd and 4th moments of the normal distribution (see the table in the Moments section of the Wikipedia page on the normal distribution), but shouldn't be too deep.
Let me spell out how to calculate the expected value:
$$\mathbb{E}(S^2) = \mathbb{E}\left[\frac{1}{N-1} \sum (X_i - \bar{X})^2\right] = \frac{1}{N-1}\left\{ \mathbb{E}\left[\sum X_i^2\right] - \frac{1}{N}\mathbb{E}\left[\left(\sum X_i\right)^2\right]\right\}$$
And note that $\mathbb{E}\left[\sum X_i^2\right] = \sum \mathbb{E}\left(X_i^2\right) = \sum (\mu_i^2 + \sigma_i^2)$
And then $\mathbb{E}\left[\left( \sum X_i \right)^2\right] = \mathbb{E}\left[ \sum_{i,j} X_i X_j \right] = \sum_{i,j} \mathbb{E}\left( X_i X_j \right) = \sum_{i,j} (\mu_i \mu_j + \sigma_{ij}) = \left(\sum_i \mu_i\right)^2 + \sum_{i,j} \sigma_{i,j}$
Thus we obtain
$$\mathbb{E}(S^2) = \frac{1}{N-1} \left\{ \sum_i \; \mu_i^2 + \sum_i \; \sigma_i^2 - \frac{1}{N}\left(\sum_i \; \mu_i\right)^2 - \frac{1}{N} \sum_{i,j} \; \sigma_{ij} \right\}$$
Here $\sigma_i^2$ is the $i$th diagonal element of the covariance matrix and $\sigma_{ij}$ is the $(i,j)$th element, so $\sigma^2_i = \sigma_{ii}$.
For your example code, I calculate an expected value of 0.0725:
(sum(m1^2) + sum(diag(S1)) - sum(m1)^2/3 - sum(S1)/3)/2
Note that you could also write this as:
n <- nrow(S1)
var(m1) + sum(diag(S1) - mean(S1)) / (n-1)