Some simple matrix algebra on the covariance matrix of your estimates
Any quality stats package will report (somewhere) an estimated covariance matrix for your estimates. Eg. if your model is:
$$ y = b_0 + b_1 x_1 + b_2 x_2 + b_3 x_3 + b_4 x_1x_2 + \epsilon$$
Under the usual assumptions of linear regression your estimate of vector $\mathbf{b}$ is asymptotically normal. Your stats package can give you its estimate of the covariance matrix of $\mathbf{b}$:
\begin{align*} \hat{\operatorname{Var}}\left( \mathbf{b} \right) &= \hat{\Sigma} \end{align*}
(For reference, the standard errors for estimate $\hat{\mathbf{b}}$ are the square root of the diagonal elements of $\hat{\Sigma}$.) If you want to calculate the standard error for the sum $b_1 + b_4$, you can create a vector $\mathbf{r}$ such that $\mathbf{r}'\mathbf{b} = b_1 + b_4$. That is:
$$ \mathbf{r} = \begin{bmatrix} 0 \\ 1 \\ 0 \\ 0 \\ 1 \end{bmatrix} $$
And then compute:
$$\begin{align*}\sqrt{\mathrm{Var}\left( b_1 + b_4 \right)} &= \sqrt{\mathbf{r}'\Sigma \mathbf{r} }\\
&= \sqrt{\sum_{i}\sum_{j} r_i r_j \Sigma_{ij}}
\end{align*}$$
Run another regression approach
This may be easier to program, but you have to be careful in figuring out the regression to run. Instead of estimating:
$$ y = b_0 + b_1 x_1 + b_2 x_2 + b_3 x_3 + b_4 \left( x_1x_2 \right) + \epsilon$$
You could instead run another linear regression:
$$ y = c_0 + c_1 (x_1 - x_1x_2) + c_2 x_2 + c_3 x_3 + c_4\left(x_1x_2\right) + \epsilon$$
That is, create a new variable $x_1 - x_1x_2$ and include that instead of $x_1$. You should find that $c_4 = b_1 + b_4$, and you can then use the standard error your stats package gives you for $c_4$.
Why this works:
Let matrix $A$ be defined as:
$$A = \begin{bmatrix} 1 & 0 & 0 & 0 & 0 \\ 0 & 1 & 0 & 0 & 0\\
0 &0 & 1&0 & 0\\ 0 & 0 & 0 & 1 & 0 \\ 0 & 1 & 0 & 0 & 1 \end{bmatrix} \quad \quad A^{-1} = \begin{bmatrix} 1 & 0 & 0 & 0 & 0 \\ 0 & 1 & 0 & 0 & 0\\
0 &0 & 1&0 & 0\\ 0 & 0 & 0 & 1 & 0 \\ 0 & -1 & 0 & 0 & 1 \end{bmatrix} $$
Let $\mathbf{c} = A \mathbf{b}$ hence:
$$\mathbf{c} = \begin{bmatrix} b_0 \\ b_1 \\ b_2 \\ b_3 \\ b_1 + b_4 \end{bmatrix}$$.
If you transform the data by $Z = X A^{-1}$ the OLS estimator for $ y_i = z_0 + c_1 z_{i1} + c_2 z_{i2} + c_3 z_{i3} + c_4 z_{i4} + u_i$ is:
$$\begin{align*}
\hat{\mathbf{c}} &= (Z'Z)^{-1}(Z'\mathbf{y}) \\ &= ({A'}^{-1}X'XA^{-1})^{-1}({A'}^{-1}X'\mathbf{y})\\ &= A(X'X)^{-1}X'\mathbf{y} \\ &= A \hat{\mathbf{b}} \end{align*}$$
How do you construct $Z = X A^{-1}$? Since $X = \begin{bmatrix} x_0, & x_1, & x_2, & x_3, & x_1 x_2 \end{bmatrix}$ we have:
$$ \begin{bmatrix} x_0, & x_1, & x_2, & x_3, & x_4 \end{bmatrix} A^{-1} = \begin{bmatrix} x_0, & x_1 - x_1x_2, & x_2, & x_3, & x_1x_2 \end{bmatrix}$$
So if you run the regression:
$$ y = c_0 + c_1 (x_1 - x_1x_2) + c_2 x_2 + c_3 x_3 + c_4 \left(x_1x_2\right) + \epsilon$$
You'll find $c_0 = b_0$, $c_1 = b_1$, $c_2 = b_2$, $c_3 = b_3$, and $c_4 = b_1 + b_4$ and the standard error for $c_4$ is the standard error for $b_1 + b_4$.