Since this looks like homework, or exercise I will skim through the solution.
Let's write
$$f_{X_i|T}(x_i | t) = \frac{f_{X_i, T}(x_i, t)}{f_T(t)}.$$
The joint distribution $f_{X_i, T}(x_i, t)$ is the product of a Gaussian $(0, d^2)$ and a $\chi^2(2)$ (the post does not specify that $X_1, X_2, X_3$ are independent, but I will take it for granted):
$$f_{X_i, T}(x_i, t) \propto \exp\left\{-\frac{x_i^2}{2d^2} \right\} \exp\left\{-\frac{t-x_i^2}{2d^2}\right\},$$
which (miraculously) simplifies to
$$f_{X_i, T}(x_i, t) \propto \exp\left\{-\frac{t}{2d^2}\right\}.$$
From here this is quite easy because we realize that the numerator does not depend on $x_i$ so the distribution of $x_i$ given $t$ is uniform. The boundaries for $x_i$ given $t$ are $-\sqrt{t}$ and $+\sqrt{t}$ by construction, so the expected value $E(|X_i| | T=t)$ is
$$ 2\int_0^{\sqrt{t}} \frac{x_i}{2\sqrt{t}} dx_i = \frac{1}{2}\sqrt{t}.$$
The expected value of a sum is the sum of the expected values, so getting $E(\tilde{d} | T=t)$ is piece of cake.
EDIT: Following @whuber's comment, here is how I got $f_{X_i|T}(x_i | t)$. I will assume $i=1$ for the sake of the argument. Let's define $Z = X_2^2 + X_3^2$, which is a scaled $\chi^2(2)$, i.e with 2 degrees of freedom.
The joint density of $(X_1, Z)$ is the product of their densities because they depend on different variables, so $\propto \exp\left\{-\frac{x_1^2}{2d^2} \right\} \exp\left\{-\frac{z}{2d^2}\right\}$. Now we use the change of variable $(X_1, Z) \rightarrow (X_1, X_1^2 + Z = T)$. The Jacobian of the inverse transformation is 1, so $f_{X_1|T}(x_1 | t) \propto \exp\left\{-\frac{x_1^2}{2d^2} \right\} \exp\left\{-\frac{t-x_1^2}{2d^2}\right\}$.